Nikala Asante

The fingernails always went first.  The tips where they were greyish-white began to fade into a stone grey and spread backwards into the pink base of the nail.  The shape would change too, of course; each nail contracted smaller and more pointed like walls closing in and forming a tunnel to nowhere.  The nails were the hardest part to watch.  Khalil would cringe and sometimes close his eyes tight to avoid this horror.  Each time, it confirmed to him that this was not a dream, that he was differe

Find your pain, find your motivation. Heal from that pain, change your motivation. Can you make a webpage achieve an activity that is not in its coding? You cannot ; not without changing the code. Likewise, we cannot truly change our habitual actions until we identify our pain and really engage with the process of purging and healing. Until we do this, we constantly seek people and situations that either reflect our pain or temporarily relieve it. I will provide some examples from my own life.

We’ve all heard that the calm comes after the storm. It’s easy to feel like that’s true, like after the storm everything will be clear, sunny, and peaceful. Cleaned and renewed. But, if that was true, would it be a storm or just a hard rain? When a true storm hits, there is storm damage. That damage can be internal, external, or both. You may have faced a period of back to back losses and now it’s like there’s a fallen tree in the middle of your mind. You may have taken on so much in caring fo